I've been debating starting a blog like this one for months. I have very strong feelings about the "lifestyle" that I chose to participate in and I' not here to recruit new members (newbies). I am here to shed some light on to the subject. Being gay or lesbian seems to be all the rage now days and they have finally become accepted in society, at least for the most part. Gay/Lesbian couples are seen all over the television, news, newspapers in every form of phsical contact imaginable and they are accepted by society, now. However, people who elect to participate in the lifestyle of swinging still have to hide behind bedroom doors and are NOT permitted to 'come out of the closet' if you will because of societial norms. Generally speaking, average America is more willing to live next door to a gay or lesbian couple than they would be to live next door to a swinging couple who is open about what they do. WHY?
I guess it would be easier to start with what swinging is NOT. It is NOT a fix to an already rocky relationship. It is NOT a 'license' to sleep with everyone who will have you. It is NOT about finding something that you are missing in your current relationship. It is NOT a secretive lifestyle. It does NOT tolerate jealousy. I could go on and on...I hope you get the idea. It IS about TOTAL OPENNESS, TRUST and COMMITTMENT with who you are currently with.
Openness, trust and committment? You say you already have this in your monogomas relationship? Great! Are you willing to explore the wilder side of your relationship with each other without bringing in drama, jealousy or insecurities? Have you even broached the idea with the one you love? Do you even know how you would start this type of conversation with him/her? Are you sure you know (I mean REALLY know) the person well enough to be able to bring this up without causing them any suspiosious reactions?
These are the types of questions I hope to answer in this blog.
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